LADIES ITS YOUR WORLD!

When I was at teenager, the only thing I had in mind was trying to be accepted by the world around me. I found myself trying to please others before I thought about pleasing myself. I honestly thought that would make me happy only to find out it was not good enough. I watch everyone around me hook up and guys categorizing females to their likings. When I was much younger my looks was not accepted at all. Once I hit my mature stage, things started to change. After observing what guys like, I started to transform my outlook. My personality was the same, but my outer appearance was not genuine. I thought I had to dress a certain way to gain attention from guys who could care less about who I really was. Of course during all of this I had a child. Even though my relationship with the father was on and off, I still had a need for that attention. Bringing my standards down, I had to walk the walk and talk the talk like everyone else. Surprisingly it was not hard. The fact that I had a child at a young age did not make it easy to determine guys real reason of their sudden approach. It would have make it easier if I just had a "I had sex" stamp on my forehead. The acceptance I thought I needed and wanted was not satisfying at all. Through all of this I learned to respect my children enough to keep them out of my issues. I made a promise to be a good mother and I tend to keep it by telling them what I did not know then compared to what I know now.

As challenging it is to not give in an fall under society's pressure, you have to fight. The biggest fight is usually with yourself and trying to figure out what you want in life. Trust me you will go through ups and downs, ins and out of life, but be true to yourself. It gets confusing of who is trustworthy or not; the key is to evaluate yourself. Your actions speak louder than words! If you are showing off too much, then you are going to attract guys that like girls that are showing off too much. Body language is also a big communication method that can send the wrong messages. Even if you are sending that message with that "I want you look" then you have to ask yourself why and not be surprised at the consequences of those actions. If your mind is telling you no but your body is saying yes, then you are sending the wrong message. Do not do what you feel you have to in order to be accepted, instead be yourself. If guys do not like who you are then they are not the guy you need to be with. A guy should respect you regardless. Too many people are giving in and finding themselves pregnant or with a uncured disease. Be careful and ask questions....wish I would have known!!!

-Regina Stevens